My Single Lot

It's been a long time my friends!  I must admit having been on a few dates since the last post and yes, I'm still single.  After mulling it over for a while I have come to the conclusion that perhaps it is not my lot in life to be "coupled up".  Not that I wouldn't make a good girlfriend or wife, I think I could actually do that with success.  It's just that I think that I actually enjoy the "in relationship" status and tend to want to live in that area more often than not.  The problem with that is...  you have to meet someone and date them in order to get there.  This leads me back to the "lot in life" situation.  I have assessed the following-generally speaking, I don't enjoy the process of dating.  Here's why:
                 
1.  I don't often meet someone I'd actually like to date.  I don't know where other adults meet these fabulous people but I tend to see and talk to the same people on a day-to-day basis.  On the occassion that I'm out and about talking to new people AND I am asked out, it tends to be by the guy with the neck tattoo who just got out of the pen, still living in the transitional living home.  So...

2.  I tend to go on dates just for something to do or to "try it", see MatchDotCom & Marathon.  Really, not a good start to any potential relationship.  I thought I was being "open-minded".  I have since decided that it is a waste of perfectly good time.  Both of ours.

3. If I do go on a date with someone I do like, I tend to become completely anxious.  What should I wear?  Where are we going?  Should I meet him there? Should he pick me up? Am I talking too much? What does he want? Is he just trying to hook up?  The awkward moment when the check comes...  See what I mean?  Good grief.

4. The complicated "rules" and games; who can/should call/text who & when after the date, how often to respond to said calls/texts, how often to be versus not be available (you know, the whole who's pursuing who deal).  I was reading an article recently that stated that women should not call a man later to thank him for the date or say that you had a nice time.  Apparently, that's his job.  Who knew?  I thought it was being polite and expressing interest.  Maybe everyone else learned of these rules while I was busy working and raising children?


So I've decided to pursue some hobbies and interests that working and raising children also derailed such as taking a salsa class, going to the art museum, learning about my family tree, and exploring things I enjoy...  And that my friends, does make me happy!